Clutter gets a Make Over
Enjoy a new perspective on the New Year focus upon personal improvement.

Entering a local bookstore recently, I was immediately confronted with the now familiar January display of diet and exercise books. “Happy New Year and Happy New You!” The next onslaught came from a myriad of books about clearing clutter and getting organized. Attempting to navigate my way past the overwhelming, and often conflicting, information, my eye was drawn to one book title. As I passed the display, I began to laugh as the title replayed in my mind. “Does this culture make my butt look fat?” “No doubt,” I laughed.

Finally, a book with a refreshing look at the cultural pressure that compromises our satisfaction with our bodies. Going back to read the book jacket, I discovered I had misread the title! The book was actually titled, “Does this clutter make my butt look fat?” Hmmmn. I reflected upon the United States’ multimedia deluge about the critical importance of obtaining the perfect body through diet, exercise, diet, fashion, beauty products, and surgery. With every advertisement, we are presented with the opportunity to rectify the unfortunate state of our physical appearance. Internalizing these messages throughout our lifetime supports the mental admonishment of our internal critic and endless conversations between people about the need to improve. “Does this clutter make my butt look fat?” “No doubt,” I thought.

This endless cultural focus upon our physical appearance and the expected need to conform to a narrow standard could certainly qualify as “clutter.” Imagine if we cleared that clutter from our mind, conversations, and airways! Imagine if we replaced the endless comparison with the ideal of beauty that leaves most Americans coming up short with positive ideas of vibrant health, self-acceptance, and appreciation of all types of appearance. Imagine if self-love permeated our thoughts, conversations, and media.

What if we made a decision to love these bodies that breathe, move, think, heal, and process food without our conscious direction? What if we focused upon the beauty of another’s face when they smiled and appreciated their bodies when they offered a hug. Can you imagine the healing that would happen in our minds, hearts, and bodies? Freed from the never ending escalation to move into alignment with the societal definition of beauty, we could simply settle into accepting that our true beauty has nothing to do with our appearance.

We could focus upon how we feel when we offer love, kindness, and joy. We could bask in the receipt of other’s generosity or compassion. Clutter me up with kindness, love, and compassion any day. Let me clutter up your world experience with the same. In the midst of self-acceptance and appreciation of true beauty in others, only one question emerges:

“Does this clutter make my heart feel HUGE?” You bet it does. Enjoy your expansion.

About the Author:
Kathy Milano, PhD, ATP® - Kathy Milano, PhD, Angel Therapy Practitioner
About the Author: Kathy Milano, PhD, DCEP, ATP® is a Clinical Psychologist with a Diplomate in Comprehensive Energy Psychology. Her psychotherapy practice in New Jersey offers adolescents, adults, and families an opportunity for empowerment and healing of the mind, body, and spirit with the use of positive psychology, mind-body techniques, heart assisted therapy, EMDR, and energy psychology. Kathy is also an Angel Therapy Practitioner®, trained by Doreen Virtue, who offers Angel Healing Sessions, Workshops, Meditation CDs, and eCourses to empower everyone to partner with their Angels and Guides. More information about Kathy and her free Authentic Living Newsletter and free Angelic Reminders is available online at

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Mary LawThank you, Kathy, for the beautiful tweak to my awareness.  My heart is cluttered with gratitude and appreciation for you and for all that we have shared.  Good thing it expands as it goes!  Much Love to you, Mary
Haddon Twp, NJ - 7 yearss ago